Wednesday, 14 September 2016


Genesis 19:31-38 (NIV)

31 One day the older daughter said to the younger, “Our father is old, and there is no man around here to give us children—as is the custom all over the earth.

32 Let’s get our father to drink wine and then sleep with him and preserve our family line through our father.”

33 That night they got their father to drink wine, and the older daughter went in and slept with him. He was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up.

34 The next day the older daughter said to the younger, “Last night I slept with my father. Let’s get him to drink wine again tonight, and you go in and sleep with him so we can preserve our family line through our father.”

35 So they got their father to drink wine that night also, and the younger daughter went in and slept with him. Again he was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up.

36 So both of Lot’s daughters became pregnant by their father.
37 The older daughter had a son, and she named him Moab; he is the father of the Moabites of today.
38 The younger daughter also had a son, and she named him Ben-Ammi; he is the father of the Ammonites of today.

I quoted these verses to illustrate better what I’m talking about today. The two (2) sisters above were lonely and desperate and were ready to do anything to get married. They both slept with their father and gave birth to nations who the Lord found as abominable. 

When you let desperation set in, you begin to make mistakes. Desperation is a trick of the enemy to deceive you that you can never meet the man/woman for your life.  Once you buy that thought, making mistakes is a must. More than half of the mistakes we make when choosing a life partner is because we are desperate.

Desperation is a sign that you are not yet complete; it shows you are lonely, not alone.

Being alone means you are complete in yourself, you are capable of being joyful by yourself, you are perfectly content with yourself, you don’t need someone else to make you happy, you are sure and confident of who you are, you love your own company, you know you are a plus not a minus, a blessing to another person. 

This is the perfect stage, to make the crucial decision of choosing a life partner because your success and happiness are not dependent on another person but on God alone and the revelation of who are. 

Loneliness is when you need someone else/others to make you happy. Loneliness is when you are incapable of staying alone, you always have the need to be in a relationship (you’re always in a relationship) or be with someone. Loneliness is when you hate your own company when you need the validation of another person. 

Don’t ever make the mistake of allowing someone else be responsible for your happiness, not only will the person have control over you but once the person realises this; the possibility of being mistreated is very high. When you know someone else (asides God) is the source of your happiness/joy, please and please that is not the right time to choose a life partner. 

From my personal experience, getting to the point of completeness is simply realising that you are so much more than being somebody’s wife. You are on planet earth first for a purpose, and until that purpose is discovered and is being achieved, you will forever feel empty and seeking validation from others. Therefore, for you to be complete and whole; discover your purpose and walk in it. 

I love you for reading; kindly do let me know your thoughts. God bless you. 

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  1. This is so timely and on point. God bless you great lady. I wish i can share this over & over again

  2. Thank you so much Dear Anonymous. Please you are very free to share. Thank you for reading and commenting, God bless you too.

  3. Thank you for reading and commenting Harobed, i appreciate the time.